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Ode to Miss Joyce

Miss Joyce is the name that I gave, as a young child, to my teacher-ego.  It was clear to me at a very young age that one of the greatest values of knowing anything was to be able to share that knowledge with as many people as possible.  I forced my younger sister to take my reading classes.  Having just learned to read myself, I was quite a passionate teacher.  Whatever I lacked in experience, I made up for in my soul’s dedication to sharing.

The journey continues as I am spilling over with renewed passion for sharing everything I know about yoga and meditation with you.  Even as the news reports of savage pain, increasing violence, poverty and grief beyond measure, I know that we have the ability to gather as a community to embody and disperse healing energy and light.  It is not selfish to make time for your practice.  It is, perhaps, the most powerful thing you can do to make change in the world–one cell at a time.  Yoga and meditation help us build key skills that are necessary for peace.  These skills include awareness, compassion and loving-kindness.  Sure, there are people who may appear to be more inclined towards or talented in these skills than others, but the truth is that they are learned skills.  And, like any skill, whether you have talent or not, the key to improving skill level is practice.  So, please join me as I put on my Miss Joyce hat and share from my heart-mind the wisdom of my practice and the gifts that my own teachers have passed on to me.  All that I have, I share with you.  And, I know that when we are all together, what I receive is an overflowing well of joy, happiness and peace.

Our practices are on Thursday evenings from 6:30 to 8:00 pm at the Irma Freeman Center for Imagination. Drop-in fees are $15, but these are collected on a sliding scale.  You can pay with cash on site on the evenings of class or pay online with a credit card.  These classes start on Thursday, September 8, 2016.

My teaching schedule can be found HERE.

Matrika Yoga Studies and Teacher Training Program information for 2016-2017 can be found HERE. 

Meteor of Your Laughter

“…let the meteor of your laughter fly: electrify the natural names of things!”
 ~Pablo Neruda*

There came a day recently when I realized that there wasn’t enough beauty in my life.  Not because beauty did not exist–within me, around me, near me and within my reach.  I was not opening my eyes to it, feeling it, seeking it out and making it a priority.  When I came to this awareness of the separation I had created between myself and beauty, I decided to return to some of my favorites from the past: Shakespeare, novels, poetry, music, dancing and sitting in the library.  It is within these things that I find the connective tissue in between my existence and beauty in the form of hints, reminders, clues, rhythm and creative inquiry.

Although this is entirely taken out of context, I find this mantra to be brutal, sharp and instructive: Let the meteor of your laughter fly.  Electrify the natural names of things.

Today, I tune into my capacity for laughter.  A laughter with velocity, speed and the kind that carries the debris of my experience out of my body and transforms it into heat and light. Today I speak with electricity and do not take for granted the names of things or my capacity to speak of them.

I hope with all my heart that this mantra or even just this quick reminder that beauty is yours to behold whenever you choose help you connect with the parts of yourself that were made from the same elements of the stars.

Posted by Sharon Fennimore, a rogue anthropologist, mind-body coach, yogini and doula based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.  In town?  Come take a yoga and meditation class with me. 

*(pg. 519, Translation by Stephen Tapscott, The Poetry of Pablo Neruda 2003)

A Few of My Favorite Things

Right now, I’m trying some new to me books and products and want to share what I am loving right now with you:

Body and Beauty

Face Cream
Love Your Face Cream Original Formula
by Indian Meadow Herbals

I bought mine at the East End Food Co-op in Pittsburgh and you should ask for this amazing product at your local health food store. The cream is pretty thick and oily and a little goes a long way.  The best is to put it on your face when it is still wet and then it absorbs really quickly leaving your face super duper soft and lovely.

Badger BalmYoga and Meditation Balm
by Badger Balm

I, again, bought mine at the East End Food Co-op in Pittsburgh, but Badger Balm is everywhere you look these days (yes, Walgreens…..).  I’m not a big fan of orange scented anything.  It’s supposed to lift your spirits, but it usually just smells too sweet for my taste and I feel kind of nauseated.  But, this has orange and cedar and I love to rub a little on my temples, back of my neck and collar bones before I do my breathing exercises at the start of my seated meditation sessions.  It’s a very grounding and joyful scent and I feel like it gets me started on the right foot even if I was feeling kind of wrong foot to begin with.

savory teaNumi Savory Tea
Fennel Spice

Hey, guess where I bought mine?  Yep, back at the East End Food Co-op.  These little savory tea bags are super special treasures.  You can make a cup when you feel like a snack, but you don’t need a snack and it satisfies your appetite and the need for warmth and fluids.  Make a cup with a delicious grilled cheese sandwich or to go with a lovely slice of quiche or a spinach salad.  Or, have some with a slice of nutty bread and butter. Or, if you have a cold or are feeling blue, this will create a tasty warmth in your heart and is likely fabulous for your immune system and spirit.  A surprising cuppa loveliness!

Book Ideas

“The dilemma of the eighth-grade dance is that boys and girls use music in different ways. Girls enjoy music they can dance to, music with strong vocals and catchy melodies. Boys, on the other hand, enjoy music they can improve by making up filthy new lyrics.”
― Rob SheffieldLove is a Mix Tape

“You know the Prince song where the girl’s phone rings but she tells him, “whoever’s calling couldn’t be as cute as you?” I long to live out this moment in real life.”
― Rob SheffieldLove is a Mix Tape

“Monogamous musicians are like vegan hockey players.”
― Rob SheffieldTalking to Girls About Duran Duran: One Young Man’s Quest for True Love and a Cooler Haircut

life you love bookI know, I know, self-help books are so 1980’s (speaking of which, if you haven’t read Love is a Mix Tape and Talking to Girls About Duran Duran, both by Rob Sheffield, then stop reading this immediately, run to the library and reserve these golden nuggets of memoirs—AMAZING).  But, this is one that is worth ending my ban on helping myself to just about anything and here is why—there is practical information on how to modify your behavior to change the way you relate to the most difficult people in your life.  Yep, that’s what I said.  You can’t change difficult people and so much of the time you can’t chose whether or not to interact with them, so when you must engage, this is an awesome guide to maintaining your self-esteem and dignity until you can escape.  Living the Life You Love by Paula Renaye.  

shapeshapebookThis minimalist sewing style book, Shape Shape 2 by Natsuno Hiraiwa makes me want to wear wrap skirts and colorful bursts of scarves that double as pants (I’m exaggerating here.).  I want to make the scarf that turns into a shawl that can be used in an emergency as a skirt (There I go exaggerating again.).  But seriously, what a beautiful book of the most unique ideas for relatively simple sewing projects that can be the base for whatever you want them to be!  I happen to know that the Carnegie Library of Pittsburgh has a copy and also that it is currently checked out (to me!).  Check out your local library and make a donation while you are there because, seriously, what would we do without libraries?

pablopoetrybookWhen my beloved Grandma passed away, my sister, an incredible artist and illustrator (AND vocalist and musician—an angel’s voice!) made the most beautiful remembrance cards and on the back was a quote from a Pablo Neruda poem.  I’ve loved poetry my whole life and was engaged in writing poetry ever since the poet came to my fourth grade class and helped us all write poems inspired by Impressionist paintings (I wrote “Ode to the Little Man in Edgar Degas The Dancer”—or something like that, but I have a very fond memory of picking out the postcard with the image on it out of a vintage suitcase.).  I don’t know who you are or where you are young poet who agreed to be an artist in the NYC public schools that year, but you super charged my love of poetry.  But, as I spent the better (and arguably best so far) part of my adult life reading Chinese poems and Asian literature, I totally missed out on Pablo Neruda.  So I have my sister and her grief inspired ingenuity for the introduction.  Right now, as many of you dear readers know, I am having some troubles and my sister lives so very far away—so I have turned to The Poetry of Pablo Neruda for solace.  In a world where a human, even just one,  could create such brave acts of expression, I just feel so empowered to survive and thrive.

These are just a few of my current favorite things and I’m happy to share them with you. Posted by Sharon Fennimore, online meditation guru, recovering self-help book addict and rogue anthropologist.  I also attend births as a doula and teach rather lovely yoga classes if you happen to be in Pittsburgh.

NOTE: And, unlike most magazines that have favorite things columns, I didn’t receive any free products to try (although, I’d accept some if you were in the sending mood….).  These are things that I honestly like an awful lot right now.

Fertility

NOTE: this is a dated blog post that describes services and packages that are no longer available.  If you are interested in my optimum fertility and reproductive health services, please follow this link to the current packages. 

Optimum Fertility

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Reproductive Health and Fertility Coaching

 

Irregular Periods? PMS? Moody? Bloated? Doubled over and missing out on activities and work due to cramps, migraine headaches or back pain?  Does your period just go on and on and on?  Is “heavy” flow an understatement?

PCOS? (Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome) Anovulation?  Not ovulating due to low body fat, endocrine disruption or trying to regain fertility after being on birth control pills or other hormone based birth control?

Trying to conceive for over 6-months without a pregnancy?  Miscarriage?  Unexplained infertility?  Considering IVF or other medically assisted reproduction therapy?

 

There is no reason to suffer!  I offer personalized coaching services where we address your greatest concerns, create do-able action plans for addressing your needs and all the support and confidence you need to improve the quality of your life and reproductive health.  Your action plan is likely to include:

  • Stress Management
  • Diet and Nutrition
  • Meditation and Visualization
  • Mindful Movement, Yoga and Exercise
  • Counseling on finding the best medical care providers, alternative health services and problem solving
  • Learning how to track fertility signs to either prevent or promote conception

Take the first step and call for your FREE phone consultation: 412-855-5692.  During this consultation I will work with you to determine what your reproductive health goals are and offer you an initial evaluation and proposal for our work together.  To give you an idea of the costs for this type of coaching work, here are some examples of coaching packages:

One-Time Coaching Session  $150

Before the session you fill out an extensive intake survey so I know exactly what you need before the call.  During the call we address a singular issue regarding your reproductive health and/or fertility.  You leave the session with an action plan for solving your greatest concern and I will be available to you for unlimited e-mail support for up to one-month after the session.  Our session lasts an hour and a half and is scheduled at your convenience.  You may, if it is part of your action plan, decide to enroll in my menstrual education course which includes detailed information on tracking your fertility signs for $90.  This would make the total cost for improving the quality of your life and finding real solutions to your chronic reproductive health problems for $150-$240.

One-Month Intensive $350

Before the first session, you will fill out an extensive intake survey so I know exactly what you want to work on before our first call.  During this month, you will receive weekly meal plans and nutritional advice and we will have three, one-hour phone sessions during the 4-weeks of your month intensive.  This is most likely for women with a more complex health issue or who are scheduled for an IVF cycle and want a month of support around that cycle.

Six-Month PCOS, PMS, Irregular Cycles or Optimum Fertility Coaching Program  $500

This type of program is for women that have a chronic endocrine or other imbalance that is going to require a longer commitment to nutrition, medication, and lifestyle changes in order to meet their goals.  This program includes enrollment in my menstrual education course and e-mail support for 6-months following the program.

 

Follow-up sessions are between $50-$100 depending on the type and length of session required.  All coaching programs, including single sessions, come with some period of unlimited e-mail support.

Keeping Cool with Yoga

Top Three Ways to Cool Down with Yoga and Meditation

yogasnowYou might not think of yoga when you consider ways to cool down.  As a matter of fact, with the proliferation of hot yoga, you may only think of yoga as an activity that is meant to generate heat.  But, yoga and meditation offer a variety of ways to help balance your experience of heat.

First, we should explore the concept of “heat” in the context of yoga.  There are many different ways to look at heat and fire in energetic principles, asana/movement, and pranayama/breath.  One approach to heat is to examine the “agni” or digestive fires located in the navel center.  The heat produced during the effort of practicing yoga poses (asana) is designed to clear “energetic” impurities.  An example of an “energetic” impurity might be an emotional block or a mental pattern that is no longer helpful.  This allows energy to move more freely through the subtle body and creates potential where there may have not been any before the block was removed.  The energy of heat and fire is that of purification and “fire is the underlying elemental energy of creativity and accomplishment (Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche, 44).”  When we are experiencing external heat, it give us an opportunity to connect with this internal element of fire and the power it has to remove obstacles to creative forces.

Sure, clearing impurities sounds good, but I’m going to give you three ways to use specific techniques in yoga and meditation to actually cool yourself down when you are feeling over-heated.  From summer heat to hot flashes to trying to cool your head and heart after an argument, these techniques are tried and true cool down favorites:

sheetali (1)#1: Sheetali Pranayama

The word “sheetali” means cooling in Sanskrit, it is taken from the original word “Sheetal” which is soothing or cold.  This breathing exercise (SOURCE):

  • calms the mind and reduces the fight-flight response
  • cools body and mind and lowers blood pressure (so if yours is low to begin with, be careful)
  • effective in reducing hyperacidity and ulcers
  • in the Hatha Yoga Pradipika, Swami Swatmaram says that a person becomes young and attractive by practicing this exercise (cool down AND get young and attractive—BONUS!)
  • gives control over hunger and thirst
  • if you are stressed, just 5 minutes of Sheetali breath will calm you

In this pranayama the tongue is rolled in a specific manner as shown in figure. But many people can not roll their tongue in this fashion. For these people alternate Sitkari Pranayama gives very similar effects.  In Sitkari Pranayama, you draw air in through your teeth and exhale through your nose. Sitkari means “hissing breath” and is named after the sound made when you draw air through your teeth.  Teeth hissing or Sitkari refers to the sound that is made when air is drawn in through the front teeth either slightly opened or tightly closed, with the tip of the tongue regulating the pressure of air and sound. This technique refers only to breathing in, while exhalations take place normally through both the nostrils.

How to do it*:

  • Beginners can start with deep breathing practice in sitting position
  • Then start inhaling through mouth by rolling the tongue, make sure that the air passing in is cooled via tongue.  If you can’t roll your tongue, then follow the instructions given above for Sitkari or “hissing breath”.
  • Initially 4 seconds inhale through mouth while rolling the tongue and exhale for 6 seconds through both nostrils, this can be practiced for about 5 minutes.

*Note: it’s really best to learn pranayama from a teacher and then practice on your own.  If you ever feel uncomfortable, then stop and return to your normal breathing pattern.  It is very important that you try not to strain while practicing pranayama—it should feel calm and never like you are holding your breath or not getting enough breath.  This exercise can lower blood pressure, so if you already have low blood pressure, please be careful.  If you have any questions at all about whether or not this is safe for you, please check with your doctor or yoga instructor.  These instructions are provided for informational use only.

ViparitaKarani_248#2: Legs Up The Wall Pose (Viparita Karani)

 

The instructions for this pose are given so clearly online by Yoga Journal, that I’d like to direct anyone who needs full and complete instructions, contraindications and information about this pose to Yoga Journal.  

Please note that if you have very tight hamstrings, acid reflux problems or if being upside down this intensely just doesn’t feel right to you, then you can modify this pose by lying down and putting your legs up on a couch or chair.  Please remember that discomfort causes stress.  If you experience discomfort in this pose or in attempting to do this exercise, immediately stop.  The best thing is to consult with a yoga teacher in your area and learn how to do this pose in a way that is right for you.  A small investment in a private session will give you a practice you can use for stress relief for your whole life.

Step by Step

The pose described here is a passive, supported variation of the Shoulderstand-like Viparita Karani. For your support you’ll need one or two thickly folded blankets or a firm round bolster. You’ll also need to rest your legs vertically (or nearly so) on a wall or other upright support.

Before performing the pose, determine two things about your support: its height and its distance from the wall. If you’re stiffer, the support should be lower and placed farther from the wall; if you’re more flexible, use a higher support that is closer to the wall. Your distance from the wall also depends on your height: if you’re shorter move closer to the wall, if taller move farther from the wall. Experiment with the position of your support until you find the placement that works for you.

Start with your support about 5 to 6 inches away from the wall. Sit sideways on right end of the support, with your right side against the wall (left-handers can substitute “left” for “right” in these instructions). Exhale and, with one smooth movement, swing your legs up onto the wall and your shoulders and head lightly down onto the floor. The first few times you do this, you may ignominiously slide off the support and plop down with your buttocks on the floor. Don’t get discouraged. Try lowering the support and/or moving it slightly further off the wall until you gain some facility with this movement, then move back closer to the wall.

Your sitting bones don’t need to be right against the wall, but they should be “dripping” down into the space between the support and the wall. Check that the front of your torso gently arches from the pubis to the top of the shoulders. If the front of your torso seems flat, then you’ve probably slipped a bit off the support. Bend your knees, press your feet into the wall and lift your pelvis off the support a few inches, tuck the support a little higher up under your pelvis, then lower your pelvis onto the support again.

Lift and release the base of your skull away from the back of your neck and soften your throat. Don’t push your chin against your sternum; instead let your sternum lift toward the chin. Take a small roll (made from a towel for example) under your neck if the cervical spine feels flat. Open your shoulder blades away from the spine and release your hands and arms out to your sides, palms up.

Keep your legs relatively firm, just enough to hold them vertically in place. Release the heads of the thigh bones and the weight of your belly deeply into your torso, toward the back of the pelvis. Soften your eyes and turn them down to look into your heart.

Stay in this pose anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes. Be sure not to twist off the support when coming out. Instead, slide off the support onto the floor before turning to the side. You can also bend your knees and push your feet against the wall to lift your pelvis off the support. Then slide the support to one side, lower your pelvis to the floor, and turn to the side. Stay on your side for a few breaths, and come up to sitting with an exhalation.

 #3: Pitta Balancing Asana and Diet

Pitta is one of the three main dosha’s (constitutions) in Ayurvedic medicine.  If you are curious about your own constitution, you can take this Chopra Center Quiz!   The Pitta dosha controls digestion, metabolism, and energy production. The primary function of Pitta is transformation.  Qualities of Pitta dosha are: hot, light, intense, penetrating, pungent, sharp, acidic. Those with a predominance of the Pitta principle have a fiery nature that manifests in both body and mind.

Dietary Recommendations (SOURCE):

  • Dairy can be helpful in balancing the heat of Pitta, take milk, butter and ghee. Sour, fermented products such as yogurt, sour cream and cheese should be used sparingly as sour tastes aggravate Pitta. Ghee (clarified butter) is recommended. Find our ghee recipe here.
  • All sweeteners may be taken in moderation except molasses and honey.
  • Olive, sunflower, and coconut oils are the best oils to pacify Pitta. Use less sesame, almond, and corn oil, which are more heating.
  • Wheat, rice, barley, and oats are the best grains to reduce Pitta. Eat less corn, rye, millet, and brown rice.
  • The sweeter fruits such as grapes, melons, cherries, coconuts, avocados, mangoes, pomegranates, fully ripe pineapples, oranges, and plums are recommended. Reduce sour fruits such as grapefruits, apricots, and berries.
  • The vegetables to favor are asparagus, cucumbers, potatoes, sweet potatoes, green leafy vegetables, pumpkins, broccoli, cauliflower, celery okra, lettuce, green beans, and zucchini. Reduce tomatoes, hot peppers, carrots, beets, eggplant, onions, garlic, radishes, and spinach.
  • Pitta types need to use seasonings that are soothing and cooling. These include coriander, cilantro, cardamom, saffron, and fennel. Hotter spices such as ginger, cumin, black pepper, fenugreek, clove, salt, and mustard seed should be used sparingly. Very hot seasonings such as chili peppers, and cayenne are best avoided. Chew on fennel seeds after meals to cool down acid in the stomach.
  • For non-vegetarians, chicken, pheasant and turkey are preferable; beef, seafood, and eggs increase Pitta and should be minimized.

Asana Recommendations (SOURCE):

Asanas that help balance Pitta are those that place pressure on the naval and solar plexus region, in the small intestine where Pitta resides. There should be enough calming poses included to sedate irritation, anger, and intensity caused by Pitta. In general all forward bends, side stretches, twists, backbends that stretch muscles in your stomach will be beneficial.

Here are some suggestions:

– Ustrasana (Camel Pose) – This asana opens up abdomen, solar plexus, and chest, allowing for free movement of energy through these regions.

– Bhujangasana (Cobra Pose) and Dhanurasana (Bow Pose) – Also excellent solar plexus extensions for Pitta. They activate and support healthy thyroid gland function that is responsible for internal temperature regulation and metabolism. A better functioning internal thermostat will make hot weather more bearable.


- Matsyasana (Fish Pose) – as Yoga Journal notes, Matsyasana is the “destroyer of all diseases.” It stretches and stimulates the muscles of the belly and front of the neck; and stimulates the organs of the belly and throat

 Utthita Parsvakonasana (Extended Side Angle) and Trikonasana (Extended Triangle) – are good example of side stretches. Side stretches stimulate the abdominal organs; help relieve stress; improves digestion; and can be used to alleviate anxiety.


- Paschimottanasana (Seated Forward Bend) and Pada hastasana (Hands to Feet) – all forward bends calm the brain and helps relieve stress and mild depression; stimulate the liver, kidneys; improves digestion; soothe headache and anxiety and reduce fatigue
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–  Meru Vakrasana (Simple Spinal Twist) andArdha Matsyendrasana (Semi Spinal Seated Twist) – all twists stimulate the liver and kidneys, energize the spine, stimulate digestive fire in the belly; and relieve fatigue.


- Supta Vajrasana (Sleeping Thunderbolt or Diamond Pose), Sarvangasana (Shoulder Stand), Halasana (Plow), and Mayurasana (Peacock) – are good Pitta balancing poses, as well.

 

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Posted by Sharon Fennimore, MA, E-RYT, RPYT and DONA Trained Doula:  a yoga and meditation instructor and mind body coach based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.  I offer phone coaching and support and online courses in meditation and professional development.  My e-book, Matrika Prenatal Yoga is available on iBooks, Kindle and a PDF download.   Check out my website for more information!  

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The Most Beautiful Bath

This has been going around Facebook for years now, but it is so beautiful and inspiring that I thought I would post it again just in case you missed it or want to see it again.

Even more beautiful is this amazing montage of one of my yoga instructor’s home births.

 

Posted by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, facilitator of Matrika Prenatal Teacher Training programs, Matrika Prenatal Yoga and Exercise classes and a Pittsburgh doula and childbirth educator.  For more information about doula services and prenatal yoga in Pittsburgh or my new e-book, please call 412-855-5692 or send me an e-mail: sharon@yogamatrika.com.  Website: www.sharonrudykyoga.com

Seven Stress Related Health Problems

Here are seven stress-related health problems you can do something about with gentle yoga and meditation.  Remember, stress isn’t a “feeling”–it is a physiologic response to perceived (or real) danger.  It isn’t in “your head” and yoga and meditation provide release of deeply held tensions, fears and anxieties through physical, mental and spiritual exercises.

Heart Disease and Diabetes
Stress raises your glucose levels making it harder to manage Type 2 diabetes.  Mindfulness-based meditation programs have been proven to reverse heart disease.

Asthma
Chronic stress makes asthma worse and children with stressed-out parents are more likely to have asthma.

Obesity
Stress causes higher levels of the hormone cortisol which makes you collect fat around your middle.

Headaches
Migraines and tension headaches.  Enough said.

Depression and Anxiety
Adults who report having stressful jobs (like having a lot of work and very few rewards) have an 80% higher chance of developing depression than adults who do not report a stressful work environment.  It’s unlikely that you can change your work situation overnight, but you can change your response to stress with regular yoga and meditation practices.

Irritable Bowel Syndrome
You have a very smart gut and stress changes your gut’s ability to process food and can be a factor in GERD, IBS and making ulcers worse.

Accelerated Aging & Premature Death
Caregivers have a 63% higher chance of dying prematurely than adults of the same age who are not caregivers.  Life is stressful, but we can use very simple methods of movement and meditation to ease this tension and decrease this risk.

Sign up for my newsletter and you will receive a downloadable/printable PDF with three exercises you can do right now to ease tension and stress (no matter where you are, your physical abilities or what you are wearing—-everyone can do these!).  This is posted by Sharon Rudyk, an independent yoga and meditation instructor based in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania who has designed a unique movement-based meditation program, Matrika Yoga in the hopes of making yoga and meditation available to everyone and improving the quality of life for as many people as possible.  Namaste.

 

 

Top Three Mother’s Day Secrets

With Mother’s Day fast approaching (May 12, 2013), you may find yourself with the challenging task of figuring out what to get your mother this year.  You’ve smeared mushed food on her clothes, shared bodily fluids, kept her up all night and out all day and basically accepted the sacrifice of this woman’s independence since the moment of your conception as if it was a given.  And, really, now you have to figure out what to buy her that is at all meaningful in the face of this sacrifice?  Talk about pressure!  Well, in this short little blog, I will share five Mother’s Day secrets that are going to relieve the pressure and give you some fabulous ideas for how to really honor your mother.

Mother’s Day Secret Number One:

Your mother doesn’t need another______________________________ (fill in the blank with any store bought object).

Seriously, no more mugs, lipsticks, t-shirts, necklaces, movie tickets, bracelets, t-shirts, stamps, kitchen supplies, notebooks, shoelaces, soaps, lotions or perfumes.  Just stop it with the “stuff” already!  Unless you are under the age of 10 and happened to have hand-crafted something to wrap and give to your mom, then don’t even dream that there is anything you can pick up in a store that is going to be meaningful.  It might be nice.  Gifts are always nice.  As a matter of fact, if anyone is paying attention, I would actually LOVE a new blender (hint, hint) pretty much any day of the year.  But, as a Mother’s Day gift, a blender would seem kind of like getting a Snickers bar for winning an Olympic event——it’s not that you don’t want the Snickers bar, it’s just that the prize doesn’t match the incredible effort that went into training and winning the event.

GIFT HINT: If you really want to buy your mother something at a store this year, then you first need to figure out what she really wants.  This requires that you pay attention to your mother for a while.  Has she been saying that she’d really like to travel to China one day?  Well, in the likely case that you can’t afford to send your mom on an all expense paid trip to China, why not get her just a little closer with an awesome guide book and a gift certificate to a local Chinese restaurant or a few Chinese language lessons?  Listen to your mother and only buy a gift that inspires her to take time for herself and pursue something she’s interested in.  It’s not about the object, how much you spend or what it is that you get.  The real gift is that mom will know that you have actually been paying attention to her and see her as a human being with her own set of interests, hopes and dreams.  If you don’t see your mom this way, then maybe try one of my other gift ideas below or start paying more attention to what your mom is actually saying.

Mother’s Day Secret Number Two:

Mother’s Day is good for YOUR health.

It turns out that spending time considering the needs of others is good for you.  Giving your ego a break for even a few minutes is beneficial for your health.  Imagine what a whole day of considering the needs of someone else can do for you?  Avoid all commercial advice on Mother’s Day and listen to me now and hear me later, spending more money on your mother will not benefit your health or your mother.  In order for your actions to be of health benefit to you and a truly beautiful gesture for your mother, you must find some way to make your mother’s needs more important than your own for at least a few hours.  Sure, going on a tour of your mom’s ceramic gnome collection may not only bore you to tears, but may also cause you to question your mother’s stability.  But, your mom seriously loves her collection and she loves you and you put those things together and it is better than a bag of Reese’s cups (which, by the way, I’d also like as a gift any day).

GIFT HINT: Make sure that your gift involves some level of personal sacrifice for you based on a sincere desire to fulfill your mom’s wishes and not your own.  Perhaps this means listening to her tell the same story about the day you were born over the phone or looking at a collection or going to a place you aren’t all that interested in. Let’s just say that your mom is a hot power yoga enthusiast, but you are more of a “sit and be fit” kind of yogi—well, for mother’s day, you better get ready for an awesome hot yoga class!   Whatever it is, keep it in the back of your mind that the sacrifice is not only a beautiful gift, it’s also good for your health.

Mother’s Day Secret Number Three

It’s important to say what needs to be said and to say it from the heart.

What you say matters and this is especially the case for what you say to your mother.  Not text.  Not e-mail.  Say.  With your mouth.  And, if you can’t say it with your mouth (or the equivalent if you have a disability that makes talking challenging or impossible), then you better write it down (legibly!) with a pen on some really lovely paper.  Just in case you don’t know what I’m suggesting you say to your mother (really?), here is what needs to be said:

a) I love you!

b) Thank you for________________________(be specific with your thanks).
Specific means that you choose one really special thing you are thankful for:  all those delicious lunches you made me or for buying me those outrageously expensive sneakers or for piano lessons or for not telling anyone (ever!) about that incident with the vodka and the squirrel……

GIFT HINT:What is a nice gift to go with this heartfelt message?  How about you find something meaningful related to what you are thanking your mom for?  Did mom always go to your swim meets?  Perhaps you get a little frame and give her a picture of you both together at a swim meet? Sure, she probably has that picture in her collection too—–but the fact that you are thanking her for the sacrifice and giving her a little reminder of those days? Priceless!  Did your mom always make sure that the garden was beautiful each spring?  Then maybe you should give her a bunch of tulips and tell her how much that meant to you?  It’s not just the thought that counts, it’s the words that accompany the thought.

Are you married or in a committed relationship to a mom?  Do you need to step-in with a gift where the wee ones are too young to honor the day without some assistance?  Well, as an adult who lives with or near the mother, you know the real truth—-Mom could use some time.  She could use a moment to herself.  And I’m not talking about a moment to use the bathroom by herself with the door closed (but, hint hint, I’d like this kind of gift any day of the year).  I mean a lot of moments.  I mean a whole day of moments.  Tell mom you’re buying her a yoga class and paying for her to have lunch alone after the class and that lunch will be followed by a spa treatment.  Tell mom you are going to take the kids somewhere awesome and have a great day with them so she can take a bath and read a book or pretend to read a book before she collapses into a serious nap in her quiet, quiet house.

My Mother’s Day Offer: $100 for a 90-minute Yoga Spa Session

This is a deeply discounted 90-minute session that can either be conducted in person here in Pittsburgh or on the phone/SKYPE anywhere in the world that your mother has access to a phone for an hour and a half. What do you get for your mother for $100?

a) I will design a unique relaxation session for your mother based on her specific goals and needs (stress reduction? back pain? adult children driving her crazy (eh-hem…….)? insomnia? hot flashes? cancer recovery support? ).  Whatever your mom wants to work on, I’m going to design something beautiful just for her!

b) Counsel your mom (or the woman you love who happens to be a mom) on an aromatherapy treatment, mantra and hand mudra that she can use anytime she needs to feel more peaceful and calm.

c) Facilitate the relaxation session either in person or over the phone/SKYPE to help your mom feel like melted butter—in a good way.  Your mother will feel completely relaxed, rejuvenated and refreshed.  She will be nourished, cared for and treated with respect, compassion and grace for the entire session.

Sure, you could buy your mother a white leather wrapped jewelry box at Pottery Barn for $354 (I kid you not!), but I think that an hour and a half of bliss magic with benefits that will last her a lifetime is a better gift.  And, apparently, a more economical one as well (approximately $254 less than a leather wrapped jewelry box to be precise).

 




AFTER PURCHASE:

After you make your purchase, please send me an e-mail (sharon@yogamatrika.com) with:
1) Your name and contact information
2) The recipient’s name and how I should contact them about their gift. Alternatively, I can send a beautiful gift certificate to you to present or directly to the recipient.
3) Any information you want me to know that will make this gift really personalized and special for the recipient

If you don’t use e-mail (really? you don’t use e-mail?) or have trouble reaching me for any reason, then I warmly welcome your phone call to (412) 855-5692.  I’d love to discuss how to design the perfect yoga-gift for your mom or the mother you adore.

EARLY BIRD BONUS: I will send the first five Mother’s Day Yoga Spa gift recipients a special handmade lavender sachet along with their gift certificate (value: $13). Buy now for this special bonus! Seriously, this woman wiped poop off of your butt or your kid’s butt daily for almost 36-months………a little lavender sachet to send with the certificate seems like the least you can do.

Meet Me at The Market

This Saturday I am so very excited to be a vendor at I Made it Healthy Market!  Please come and see me while you are there. It would also be really great if you visited the event page on Facebook and RSVP’d that you were coming.  That way, I can get even more excited knowing that I’ll see you there!   FACEBOOK EVENT PAGE

EVENT: I Made it Market (both things for wee ones and also healthy home/body)
PLACE: Bakery Square (both indoor and outdoor)
DATE/TIME: Saturday, April 20, 2013 from noon to 4:00 pm

What am I selling?

  • Catnip toys for your kitty friends ($2 each)
  • Lavender sachets for your drawers, purse or to prevent moths in your yarn stash ($12 bundle of 3)
  • Wool lavender sachets to bring beauty to little corners of your world ($8 each)
  • Lunch box napkin sets for adults and kiddos ($12-18 each set)
  • Organic lavender and flax seed eye pillows with washable cover ($15 each)

I will also have treats including discounts on introductory packages and yoga spa sessions (hint, hint: Mother’s Day is coming up!).  The other vendors look awesome and I hope you will come out to support crafty (and healthy!) goodness in Pittsburgh.

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to SHARE this post and event information with at least five of your friends.  Don’t know which five to choose?  Well, you can always send it to more, but if you are going to send it to just five, then make them the five most creative, fun and fabulous friends you’ve got!

Posted by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, a holistic health coach, yoga instructor and doula with a special interest in working with women, couples, children and families. www.sharonrudykyoga.com