Tag: yoga philosophy

Satya as a Form of Grace

Satya is one of the most complicated of the yogic ethical principles.  It is translated as “truth” in many texts, but truth is, in and of itself, a construct of culture.  For example, I may hold as “truth” in my Quaker faith that everyone has the light of God in them (no matter behavior or evidence that seems to prove otherwise), while others may have very different ways of looking at the concept of Holy Spirit or the concept of the divine.  Am I telling the truth when I pray in this way?  Are the other understandings of the relationship between humans and the divine the NOT-truth?  And, how can we relate this use of the word “truth” when describing a commitment of faith to asking a person we work with if they are the ones who ate our yogurt in the shared refrigerator?  In the case of the yogurt, it could be seen that this is completely different.  Our colleague either ate our yogurt or they didn’t.  But, maybe when they answer us it turns out that they, in fact, had brought the same brand and flavor of yogurt to work and assumed the one they ate was theirs?  Maybe your yogurt got pushed to some dark corner of the refrigerator and you just assumed someone else ate it? Maybe this colleague was hungry and didn’t have any food, forgot their wallet at home, and in desperation chose to eat a yogurt in the refrigerator and since your name wasn’t on it they had no way to ask for permission or to know who it belonged to?  Do their personal circumstances change the “truth” of the stealing?

I am in a situation right now in which there is a great deal of confusion and a story is being told about me that does not resonate with me as true–at all.  It seems so fantastical that it’s almost impossible to defend myself.  I don’t think that this is a rare experience and that most humans have found themselves at one point or another feeling a profound dissonance between what is true for them and how another person is perceiving the situation.  It seems clear to me that the root of this concern can’t be solved by discovering THE truth because each person involved is secure in what they believe to be true.  Just as I can’t be shaken from my version of the story, my role in it, and my intentions, neither can the other people involved.

In this way, I invite myself to practice and see “satya” as a form of grace.  How can I stand in my own satya with confidence AND compassion?  Unless I can soften the edges of my narrative, then resolution remains near impossible.  And, I must remain anchored in my personal commitment to peace and non-violence above all else.  If I truly believe in the infinite nature of the life of spirit, then I must accept that a resolution may not be possible in this lifetime, but I can always choose peace in any moment.  The ethics of yoga are part of the practice.  Therefore, I challenge myself even in this most difficult of moments to practice “satya” as a way to extend grace into my life and the lives of others.

When I did my first yoga teacher training program, it was at a studio called “Satya” in Brooklyn that was sold before I even finished the program and became some other yoga studio and now it is even some other yoga studio (or maybe a falafel stand…..things change!).  In a 200-hour teacher training program that is registered with Yoga Alliance, the curriculum must include a certain number of hours studying Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras.  I dutifully memorized the yamas and the niyamas and promised as a teacher and student of yoga to bring satya into my work and my life.  But, truth isn’t just the opposite of telling lies.  The pursuit of truth is a process and a yoga practice of its own.  It turns out that satya is one of the most challenging aspect of practice and to bring into life off the cushion or mat.

A term that has come into use in the past few years is “fake news”.  When the truth is inconvenient, then the person who wishes it wasn’t the truth can point at it and declare it to be “fake”.  All the people who agree that if it really was true then it would be a terribly inconvenient and damaging situation can then get behind that person and say, “Yep, it’s fake all right.  FAKE!” (It turns out that exclamations and the confidence behind them make the statement even more powerful.).  But, there are all these other people who are hurt by the negation of what they feel is the obvious.  Uh….we all saw the video/heard the tape/saw the picture of the body of the dead baby washed onto the shore……what do you mean FAKE?  Someone had to clean that blood up, someone had to spend years healing their body and spirit after having their body grabbed in an unwelcome way, someone lost their retirement, someone’s child is irreparably hurt by lead poisoning because they drank the water that flowed through their kitchen tap, and someone had to wrap that baby’s body in a sheet and bury him.  In these situations, all these someone’s have had their lives completely altered by a truth that other someones are convinced is completely fake.  And, we can feel however we feel and get behind whatever truth resonates with us, but we can’t get justice for the victims this way.  There is no justice without grace.

In his book “Inner Engineering: A Yogi’s Guide to Joy” by Sadhguru, he instructs us to consider the yogic path as one of experiment.

“The yogic path is not a path of inherited belief; it is the path of experiment (page 69).”

As a spiritual scientist, I would suggest that in our commitment to practice as experiment that whenever we find ourselves feeling committed to a certain satya that we ask questions as an expression of curiosity:

  1. Where do I feel this “truth” in my body?  What emotions and state of mind are inspired by this “truth”?  As Rachel Carson suggested in The Sense of Wonder, “It is not half so important to know as to feel.”  Does this truth resonate in my spine?  Does this truth inspire me?  Does this truth make me feel angry or fill me with regret? Does this truth open my throat or give me a pain in my neck?  Is this truth opening my heart or making me feel tight and restricted?
  2. How does this truth impact others?  Since we are all “one” and interconnected in both the obvious and many unknown ways, it is important to explore with curiosity how this truth is working in our daily lives.  Does this truth improve the quality of my relationships with my co-workers?  Does this truth hurt anyone in their body or on an emotional/spirit level?  Try to ask questions without judgement.  Just because a truth hurts other people doesn’t make it false, but it creates some space around the fact of it just to ask questions and to explore the entire picture.  Therefore, in questioning this impact on others, allow all the answers to be felt in your body and known to your heart-mind.
  3. Have you ever felt in a different way about this truth?  Allow yourself to acknowledge if there have been times that something different may have be true for you or just to see that this truth has evolved over time.  If there has been change over time, what has inspired the change?  For example, maybe you have never trusted doctors….they are just out to get your money, they prescribe medications unnecessarily, they don’t really care about their patients, etc.  But, in the past year, your parent became very ill and you found their physician to be a healing force for good.  Your parent’s condition improved and you had excellent communication with the doctor and felt cared for and listened to.  Well, it doesn’t mean that their aren’t bad doctors out there, but now you have had an experience that has shifted your truth to allow for a truth where SOME doctors are honest and compassionate and worthy of your trust.  Don’t feel ashamed if you find that the truth has shifted over time.  It is important to explore and be curious without judgment.
  4. Is there a version of this truth that is an expression of grace in my life and the lives of others?  Is there a version of this truth that allows for the humanity to be honored or dignity extended?  If there isn’t a version of this truth that expresses grace, then I suggest that you question if it truly is “satya”.  For, any spiritual truth must also be grace. If a truth diminishes a person or group of people and strips them of their integrity, their spirit, their heart, or their ability to move freely and express their karma and dharma in this lifetime, then it is unlikely to be true.  If you are holding a “truth” about yourself that holds you back from your full expression, then it is unlikely to be “satya”.  Sometimes, the least honest truths we hold are the ones we hold about ourselves and then project onto others.

In the forward to the second edition (1989) of M.C. Richards’ “Centering: In Pottery, Poetry, and the Person”, Matthew Fox refers to centering as “the process of righting things, of making justice happen (xiii).”  In our meditation and mindful movement practices, we center and calm ourselves.  The more centered we are, the more likely that we can explore a truth to come to a place of genuine satya.  Standing in mountain pose, we can take a deep breath and feel the soles of our feet reach infinitely through space and time into the ground beneath us (Is it really solid?  Who is holding who up?) and the crown of our heads expanding infinitely into space on our out breath (Where do we end and begin?  What am I expanding out into?).  In that moment, the truth is the breath.  The satya of breath is always there for us to ground in, until, it isn’t.  It seems important, while we have breath, to keep taking this opportunity to find grace and extend it to as many other people as possible.  Everything else can just fall through our open fingers, but an investment in satya will always provide high return.

 

Hope, Marx, and the Body

I have had the great fortune of studying with and, in some cases, just been able to listen to, some people that I would consider to be genuine geniuses.  My fortune has been so great, that it would not be possible to list everyone here.  One of these people is David Harvey, who I met and studied with when I was a student at the CUNY Graduate Center in New York.  David Harvey is a critical geographer and anthropologist with significant passion for improving the conditions of life for humans everywhere.  Anyone who has studied Anthropology, or perhaps, any social science, knows that, it doesn’t look good for humans.  Almost every ethnography documents some kind of suffering—-the kind that we inflict on each other, the kind that we inflict on ourselves and the tragedies inherent with war, famine, natural disaster, racism, disease and the list goes on.  After six years of graduate work in Anthropology, I can tell you that the research consistently reveals that we aren’t that nice to one another and we don’t like to share.  Therefore, it is of considerable joy to read the hardly lighthearted, yet somewhat hopeful, work of David Harvey.  Specifically, I refer to his Spaces of Hope (2000).  Basically, the news still isn’t good, but Harvey presents small flickering lights in the tunnel of human doom that provoke the reader to become a part of something bigger than themselves in the name of the greater good.  The other risk of reading Harvey is that you have a song in your heart for Balzac, Marx and Benjamin even though you’ve never had the least bit of desire to read their work.

What role does Karl Marx and the body play in all this?  Harvey (2000) suggests that Marx, “…from the Economic and Philosophical Manuscripts onwards, Marx grounded his ontological and epistemological arguments on real sensual bodily interaction with the world (Harvey 2000: 101).”  Here, Harvey quotes Marx (1964 edition, 143):

Sense-perception must be the basis of all science.  Only when it proceeds from sense-perception in the two-fold form
of sensuous consciousness and of sensuous need–that is, only when science proceeds from nature–is it true science.

What is not discussed here is how, for many of us, we have lost our sense perception.  Many of us dis-abled our tools of sense perception somewhere along the way and now we move in a most un-sensual way through the world separated from our bodies.  We do not know hunger or fullness and spend a remarkable amount of time in some variation of the over-pose: over-whelmed, over-ate, hunched over, over it, over you, over and under—-trapped.  One of the only sensations we recognize is discomfort.  While this can be seen as negative, this discomfort is an invitation to return to a sensual state and to notice how we feel.  For many adults, this discomfort encourages a first experience with yoga and many new opportunities for health and wellness.

If all you feel is discomfort, there are two things that you can understand that may be helpful:

1-As you are human, and your discomfort is part of your experience, you can now be open to a deeper sense of compassion for all other humans.  I invite you to sit and feel your discomfort and know that you are not alone.  We can use our own suffering as a connective link to all living beings.

2-No matter where you are and no matter what your circumstances, if you can feel discomfort, there is still hope!  If you have remained sensual enough to feel this pain, then you can use these sense organs to feel non-pain.  You can use the skills of yoga and movement to wake up these capabilities that you have for something different.  Something better!

Here is a short exercise that you can do for as long as you like or as short as you like and wherever you are right now. This is the exercise of pure sound:

Take a moment to open your hearing senses and listen to sound without  judgment.  No, it isn’t easy when you’d like to throttle your neighbor for power washing his driveway each time you try to take a nap with your newborn.  But, just for the sake of this exercise, hear the power washer minus the judgement.  The same goes for hearing something lovely, like the song of the Cardinal outside your morning window.  You might hear this lovely bird-song and suddenly wish that it would never end, or think of some other time you heard such a song or you might think that it is time to purchase more bird food.   The idea is to just listen—-without the stories, ideas, thoughts and negative or positive judgements.  As soon as your mind starts to wander from the pure sound, let go and return to a sensing of sound.  Don’t get frustrated if this takes work.  It is work.  This work helps us understand the quality of our thoughts and how so very much of our experience is determined not by reality, but by what we are doing with it.  The mind is constantly moving, but the more we can create some space between experience and thought about the experience, the more rested, relaxed and clear we are.  Less angry, less in pain, but more sensual, more open and liberated from the confines of our memories and experiences.

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REFERENCES:

Harvey, David.
Spaces of Hope.  Berkeley: University of California Press, 2000.

Marx, Karl
1964 edition, The Economic and Philosophic Manuscripts of 1844.  New York

The Beautiful and The Hilarious: Both Yoga?

Please enjoy these two yoga video clips.  One is intense and beautiful and definitely yoga.  The other is awesome and hilarious and references the first.  Share your thoughts and ideas.  Is one of these more yoga than the other?  If so, which one.

The original:

And now the parody:

Practice, Dharma & Brunch

Join Sharon for this deep yoga study opportunity on the third Sunday of every month (no classes in July or August). We start with a practice of deep, long-held asana—-in a combination of yin-restorative styles that incorporates aromatherapy, breath and energetic therapies. The practice is supported by a theme based in Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras and other classical yoga texts. After practice, Sharon discusses the sutra or text related to the theme and provides a variety of interpretations and applications for daily life. Sweet breads, muffins, bagels and other morning treats provided for all who pre-register. These gatherings are designed to be a mini-retreat—relaxing, inspirational and rejuvenating!

Tuition & Registration

Tuition: $25 OR 1-class from package + $10 (Included in Yoga for Life Packages)

Kindly RSVP at least one week prior to each session so that Sharon can prepare an appropriate number of handouts and brunch items. In order to save your space, please send Sharon an e-mail to sharon@yogamatrika.com or call her (412) 855-5692 and leave a voicemail. Even if you have a Yoga for Life Package, please confirm your intention to attend.  Kindly bring your own yoga mat, meditation cushion, water bottle, notebook and pen, mug for tea or coffee and a bowl and a spoon.

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Advanced Yoga Studies

PRE-REGISTER for ALL ADVANCED STUDIES COURSES

Advanced Yoga Studies are courses for all adult yoga practitioners, yoga teachers and other professionals who feel that they would benefit from an in-depth study of various aspects of yoga from a physical, mental and spiritual perspective. Whether you have been teaching for years and feel like you need some new inspiration or you have just been practicing yoga for 6-months and have a significant interest in one or more areas of yoga practice, these courses are for you. Most of these courses are required for the 200-hour teacher training program and all of them carry continuing education credits that can be used to maintain your registration status with Yoga Alliance and other professional organizations. While these courses carry credits that are beneficial for yoga instructors, you do not need to be an instructor to benefit from this type of deep study of yoga. Please join us and explore what you have always known to be true—-life is yoga!

Foundations of Practice

Facilitated by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, MA, E-RYT, R-PYT
Mondays from 5:30 to 8:30 pm
5/2/2011 through 5/23/2011

In this course, we explore the intellectual history of yoga through text, physical movement (asana) and the breath (pranayama). American yoga traditions will be presented within the context of their historical roots in India, Tibet and China. Each session will include experiential learning of yoga poses, breathing exercises and relaxation techniques. Learn the names of various yoga styles and the myths and stories that are behind the poses and the practices of yoga. This is a required course for the 200-hour teacher training program, but is open to students of all levels who want to explore the history of yoga, philosophical and ethical implications of yoga, four basic breathing exercises and 30-essential yoga poses. In each session, we will practice some breathing and yoga poses within the intellectual context of traditional Hatha yoga concepts and texts. This is a wonderful course for students who want to learn these aspects of yoga that are not generally covered in drop-in classes, for yoga instructors who want to review the foundations of practice and for adults who are interested in obtaining 200-hour registration with Yoga Alliance.

Shaking Hands with the Subtle Body

Facilitated by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, MA, E-RYT, R-PYT
Fridays 6:00-8:30 pm
4/29/2011 through 5/20/2011

We will explore the answers to the following questions about the subtle body: What is the energetic body? Where are the chakras? What is a bandha? What is the relationship of the physical and energetic body in asana? How do different styles and traditions of yoga consider the energetic body? How can we use the breathe to change the quality of energy in the body? Sharon will draw on her training in Vajra Yoga and studies of Chinese and Tibetan yogas to introduce mutiple ways of thinking about and exercising the energetic body. This is the second required course in the 200-hour teacher training program, but everyone who is interested in exploring various aspects of the energetic body are welcome. It is suggested that all participants have a minimum of six-months of experience with yoga practice before taking this course.

Yoga of Intellect: Exploring Yoga Texts

Facilitated by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, MA, E-RYT, R-PYT
Thursdays 5:30 to 8:00 pm
5/12/2011 through 5/19/2011

All adult yoga practitioners are welcome to take this course. We will explore various sections of Patanjali Yoga Sutras, Hatha Yoga Pradipika, Bhagavad Gita and other inspiring classical and contemporary texts. These texts not only provide a philosophical and ethical foundation for the practice of yoga and meditation, but they also inspire our most significant intentions through practice and living our yoga. Yoga is a path of transformation and these texts help ground our practice in the living intellectual and spiritual traditions that have come to inspire the American yoga tradition as we know it. We will also discuss how to apply our own religious and spiritual practices, traditions and texts to our yoga practice so that we can bring balance, in a very personal way, our mind/body/spirit on our mat and in the world.

Physical Body: Embodied Anatomy for Yoga

Facilitated by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, MA, E-RYT, R-PYT
Fridays 10:00 am to 1:00 pm
5/6/2011 through 5/13/2011

This is a required course for the 200-hour teacher training certification course, but is open to all yoga practitioners, teachers and other professionals who want to explore the anatomy of yoga. The anatomy of yoga is different from the anatomy knowledges required for medical science and we incorporate what we know about the subtle body with the aspects of the physical body that are important for the physical postures. Specifically, we pay attention to the spine, shoulders, pelvis, knees and feet that are so important for safe alignment and also areas of the body that students generally have the most complaints with. We will also look at the endocrine system and discuss the specific impact of stress on the physical body and the role that yoga plays in relieving that stress.

Yoga of Teaching: Exquisite Tools for the Professional Instructor

Facilitated by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, MA, E-RYT, R-PYT
Tuesdays 10:00 am to 3:00 pm
5/10/2011 through 5/13/2011

In this practical workshop we will cover the tools that all yoga instructors need to be professional and excellent from sequencing and planning classes to verbal cues for students to making physical adjustments to negotiating your pay and work agreements. This is a required course for Matrika’s 200-hour teacher training program, but all yoga instructors are welcome. You may have a little teaching experience and feel like you want a refresher or more support on these practical aspects of teaching or you may have been teaching for years and feel like you would benefit from some new inspiration. The more diverse our group in experience and yoga teaching styles, the more we will all benefit.

A Little Dorothy Parker for Valentine’s Day

But, to cheer ourselves up on this snowy winter weekend of love and chocolate covered cherries…….a little more Dorothy Parker.  My favorite Valentine’s Day read!

 

”This is not a novel to be tossed aside lightly. It should be thrown with great force.” Dorothy Parker (1893-1967), U.S. humor writer. Quoted in The Algonquin Wits, ed. Robert E. Drennan (1968). Book review.

 

  • Excuse my dust.
    • Her proposed epitaph for herself, quoted in Vanity Fair (June 1925)
  • And she had It. It, hell; she had Those.
    • Regarding a character in Elinor Glyn’s novel It; in her review of same, “Madame Glyn Lectures on ‘It,’ with Illustrations” in The New Yorker (192711-26)
  • Salary is no object: I want only enough to keep body and soul apart.
    • New Yorker (4 February 1928)
  • Well, Aimee Semple McPherson has written a book. And were you to call it a little peach, you would not be so much as scratching its surface. It is the story of her life, and it is called In the Service of the King, which title is perhaps a bit dangerously suggestive of a romantic novel. It may be that this autobiography is set down in sincerity, frankness and simple effort. It may be, too, that the Statue of Liberty is situated in Lake Ontario.
    • “Our Lady of the Loudspeaker” in The New Yorker (192802-25)
  • It is that word ‘hummy,’ my darlings, that marks the first place in The House at Pooh Corner at which Tonstant Weader fwowed up.
  • That would be a good thing for them to cut on my tombstone: Wherever she went, including here, it was against her better judgment.
    • “But the One on the Right” in The New Yorker (1929)
  • The House Beautiful is, for me, the play lousy.
    • Review of “The House Beautiful” by Channing Pollock, New Yorker (21 March 1931)
  • [A] lady … with all the poise of the Sphinx though but little of her mystery.
    • Concerning a child actress in A. A. Milne’s play Give Me Yesterday; in her review of same, “Just Around Pooh Corner” in The New Yorker (193103-14)
  • Drink and dance and laugh and lie,
    Love, the reeling midnight through,
    For tomorrow we shall die!
    (But, alas, we never do.)

    • “The Flaw in Paganism” in Death and Taxes (1931)
  • [On the most beautiful words in the English language] The ones I like…are “cheque” and “enclosed.”
    • Quoted in N.Y. Herald Tribune (12 December 1932)
  • And I’ll stay away from Verlaine too; he was always chasing Rimbauds.
    • “The Little Hours” in Here Lies (1939); this plays on the title of the popular song “I’m Always Chasing Rainbows”; Paul Verlaine was Arthur Rimbaud‘s lover.
  • I might repeat to myself, slowly and soothingly, a list of quotations beautiful from minds profound; if I can remember any of the damn things.
    • “The Little Hours” in Here Lies (1939)
  • I’m never going to accomplish anything; that’s perfectly clear to me. I’m never going to be famous. My name will never be writ large on the roster of Those Who Do Things. I don’t do anything. Not one single thing. I used to bite my nails, but I don’t even do that any more.
    • “The Little Hours” in Here Lies (1939)
  • One more drink and I’d have been under the host.
    • Quoted in Try and Stop Me by Bennett Cerf (1944)
  • There’s a hell of a distance between wise-cracking and wit. Wit has truth in it; wise-cracking is simply calisthenics with words.
    • Interview, Paris Review (Summer 1956)
  • It’s not the tragedies that kill us; it’s the messes.
    • Interview, Paris Review (Summer 1956)
  • [On being told of Calvin Coolidge’s death] How do they know?
  • There is no such hour on the present clock as 6:30, New York time. Yet, as only New Yorkers know, if you can get through the twilight, you’ll live through the night.
    • “New York at 6:30 P.M.”, Esquire (November 1964)
  • This is not a novel to be tossed aside lightly. It should be thrown with great force.
    • Quoted in The Algonquin Wits (1968) edited. by Robert E. Drennan
  • You can’t teach an old dogma new tricks.
    • Quoted in The Algonquin Wits (1968) edited. by Robert E. Drennan
  • [On her abortion] It serves me right for putting all my eggs in one bastard.
    • Quoted in You Might as well Live by John Keats (1970)
  • You can lead a horticulture, but you can’t make her think.
    • Quoted in You Might as well Live by John Keats (1970)
    • Parker’s answer when asked to use the word horticulture during a game of Can-You-Give-Me-A-Sentence?
  • The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.
    • Quoted in Turning Numbers into Knowledge (2001) by Johnathan G. Koomey ISBN 0-9706019-0-5

 From Enough Rope (1926)

Ballads of a Great Weariness

Scratch a lover, and find a foe.

Fame

If I didn’t care for fun and such,
I’d probably amount to much.
But I shall stay the way I am,
Because I do not give a damn.

First printed in NY World, (16 August 1925)

Comment

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
A medley of extemporanea,
And love is a thing that can never go wrong,
And I am Marie of Roumania.

First printed in NY World, (16 August 1925)

Résumé

Razors pain you,
Rivers are damp,
Acids stain you,
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren’t lawful,
Nooses give,
Gas smells awful.
You might as well live.

First printed in NY World, (16 August 1925)

News Item

Men seldom make passes
At girls who wear glasses.

First printed in NY World, (16 August 1925)

Unfortunate Coincidence

By the time you swear you’re his,

Shivering and sighing,
And he vows his passion is

Infinite, undying,
Lady, make a note of this —

One of you is lying.
First printed in Life, (8 April 1926) p. 11

Experience

Some men tear your heart in two,
Some men flirt and flatter,
Some men never look at you,
And that clears up the matter.

First printed in Life, (8 April 1926) p. 11

Rainy Night

I am sister to the rain;
Fey and sudden and unholy,
Petulant at the windowpane,
Quickly lost, remembered slowly.

First printed in New Yorker, (26 September 1926) p. 10

Inventory

Four be the things I’d been better without:
Love, curiosity, freckles, and doubt.

First printed in Life, (11 November 1926) p. 12

From Sunset Gun (1927)

Partial Comfort

Whose love is given over-well
Will look on Helen‘s face in Hell;
While they whose love is thin and wise
May view John Knox in Paradise.

First printed in Life, 24 February 1927 p. 5

A Pig’s-Eye View of Literature: Oscar Wilde

If with the literate I am
Impelled to try an epigram,
I never seek to take the credit;
We all assume that Oscar said it.

First printed in Life, (2 June 1927) p. 13

Fair Weather

They sicken of the calm, who knew the storm.

First printed in NY World, (20 January 1928) p. 13

Thoughts for a Sunshiny Morning

It costs me never a stab nor squirm
To tread by chance upon a worm.
“Aha, my little dear,” I say,
“Your clan will pay me back some day.”

First printed in New Yorker, (9 April 1927) p. 31

 Alexander Woollcott While Rome Burns “Our Mrs Parker” (1934)

Woollcott’s biographical essay on Dorothy Parker is the only source for many of the things she said at the Algonquin Round Table.

  • That woman speaks eighteen languages, and can’t say No in any of them.
    • Compare with Ira Gershwin’s line in “The Saga of Jenny” (1942): “In 27 languages she couldn’t say no.”
  • And there was that wholesale libel on a Yale prom. If all the girls attending it were laid end to end, Mrs Parker said, she wouldn’t be at all surprised.
  • Brevity is the soul of lingerie.
    • Caption written for Vogue 1916
  • Katharine Hepburn delivered a striking performance that ran the gamut of emotions, from A to B.
    • Woollcott writes in While Rome Burns that Parker had “recently…achieved an equal compression in reporting on The Lake, Miss Hepburn, it seems, had run the whole gamut from A to B.” The words do not appear in Dorothy Parker’s 1934 printed review of The Lake

From Not Much Fun: The Lost Poems of Dorothy Parker (1996)

When We Were Very Sore (Lines on Discovering That You Have Been Advertised as America’s A. A. Milne.)

Dotty had
Great Big
Visions of
Quietude.
Dotty saw an
Ad, and it
Left her
Flat.
Dotty had a
Great Big
Snifter of
Cyanide.
And that (said Dotty)
Is that.

First printed in NY World, (10 March 1927) p. 15

 Misattributions

Note: A great many misquotations are attributed to Mrs. Parker. Please try to verify the provenance of any quotations you believe should be ascribed to her. Parker herself wrote about the perils of misquotation in “A Pig’s Eye Look At Literature”

  • If you want to know what the Lord God thinks of money, just look at those to whom he gives it.
    • Man and the Gospel (1865) by Thomas Guthrie “and you may know how little God thinks of money by observing on what bad and contemptable characters he often bestows it.”
  • Upon my honor
    I saw a Madonna
    Standing in a niche
    Over the door
    Of the glamorous whore
    Of a prominent son of a bitch.

    • Said to have been written in the guest-book of Hearst Castle, referring to the room occupied by Hearst‘s mistress, Marion Davies. Parker always denied it, pointing out that she would never have rhymed “honor” with “Madonna”.
    • Since Parker didn’t write it, there are many different versions of this, including ones where the word describing the whore is “favorite” or “famous”, and ones where “son of a bitch” is modified by “the world’s worst” instead of “a prominent”.
  • How odd
    Of God
    To choose
    The Jews

    • This is actually by William Norman Ewer (1885-1976) in Week-End Book'(1924); This has sometimes been misattributed to Parker, who was herself of Jewish heritage, in the form:
      How odd of God
      To choose the Jews
    • Similar sayings have also been attributed to Ogden Nash (1902-1971)
      ‘It wasn’t odd;
      the Jews chose God
    • Cecil Browne
      But not so odd
      As those who choose
      A Jewish God,
      But spurn the Jews
    • Leo Rosten
      Not odd
      Of God
      The goyim
      Annoy ‘im.

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Posted for your pleasure by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk, Owner and Director of Yoga Matrika, located in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

 

Hello There

Desire & Deserve

I was recently supervising my preschooler in the tub and, while he engaged in an imaginary battle between a Thomas the Tank Engine bath squirter and a Fisher Price fisherman, decided to pick up my shampoo bottle and read the text.  This text informed me that, by using this particular product, I would obtain results that would give me the hair that I both desired and deserved.

The desired part, I could identify with.  Of course, I desire healthy, shiny, full, fresh smelling and bouncy hair with appropriate fullness.  I certainly desire to protect my hair from anything that might cause damage.  This may be a whole lot of hope to place in dead skin cells, but I could not deny as I read the back of that bottle that, yes, I desired these things.  Admittedly, I also made my purchase with some hope that using this particular product would, in fact, help me obtain a head of hair that had just this list of delicious qualities.  For those of you who know me, I currently have a head of hair to rival Elvira—-it’s super long, grey at the temples and generally swept up in a casual way with a clip.  So, if I have desires for my hair, it’s both a whole lot of desire and a whole lot of hair to desire it with.

The deserved part, well, this seems problematic (at best!).  Exactly what kind of hair do I deserve and what have I done to deserve hair with these qualities?  I was immediately brought back to a Bill Crosby sketch where he made fun of folks who got drunk to the point of being physically ill at happy hours on Fridays because they had worked so hard that week that they deserved to get drunk. [Curious?  Need a good laugh? Check it out here:   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYsko_tc3a0 ] After an immediate chuckle at this remembering, I started to think about the relationship between our yoga practice and what we desire and deserve.

In general, although we may not be honest with ourselves about the nature of our desire, we start taking yoga classes or start any specific class or practice with a certain goal or want or need that we would like to have satisfied.  We want to relieve stress, feel better, have more energy, look younger, be more fit, lose weight, make friends, be able to say that we too do yoga and fit in, lower our chances of heart disease, get pregnant or find some kind of blissful state.  These desires can be helpful in our practice when we acknowledge them with honesty (satya) and a certain level of willingness to release the desire long enough to focus on our breath and the practice at hand.  Perhaps our practice will show us that we have passions and desires that we were not aware of or not able to name.  In this sense, our practice can help illuminate certain truths about ourselves that may have been hidden.  This type of self-awareness is priceless and our practice, as it evolves, will reveal a revolving set of desires as well.

Thinking about the concept of deserve is at once very non-yogic and what yoga is all about.  It’s at the heart of so many philosophical debates about why bad things happen to good people.  Exactly what does anyone deserve and what role do we play in facilitating our own receipt of that just reward or just punishment.  In some ways, this is part of our exploration of satya (honesty) and ahimsa (non-violence).  When we are honest during our practices and create a flow of movement and breath that is steady and rhythmic that, in turn, steadies the mind, then we are also honoring our limits.  We are, one might say, getting the practice we deserve.  What happens when we fail to honor our limits?  The breath is short and our muscles are shaky and our footing is un-centered.  We feel weak, overwhelmed and our minds jump from one instruction to the next, one pose to the next, one shaky and aching shoulder/neck/thigh to the next.  In this case, one might also say that we are getting the practice we deserve.  On the other hand, we may just be re-enforcing the beliefs that we have about what we deserve that we carry with us on and off the mat.

I would like to suggest that you deserve a calm breath, ease through body and mind and a relationship with spirit that is both an inspiration and guide to act according to your highest ideals.  I desire this for you.  While you may desire a toned and lighter body, less stress, greater sex appeal or a sweaty romp through a familiar and anonymous flow—-you might get what you don’t deserve!  Injury, headaches, a racing heart, exhaustion, shallow breath and negative thoughts racing through your mind about how you would have been able to keep up if you were just a little younger, thinner, or more fabulous.  Desire is an intention that we can guide to a variety of opportunities and possibilities.  This week, in your practice, notice what you desire and see if you get what you deserve.

If all seems a great failure, I assure you that, apparently, bliss is available from an easily obtained bottle of shampoo straight off the shelf at Rite Aid—-for less than $4.00.  So, with a guarantee so close by and so economically obtained, what do you have to lose if you expand these concepts and take them onto your mat with you this week?  Before coming into a pose, honestly ask what it is that you desire from it.  When you come out of the pose, experience what it is that you deserve. Exhale.  You are beautiful!

 

Posted by Sharon Fennimore Rudyk
Owner and Director of Yoga Matrika in Pittsburgh, PA
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